014: Impact of and Healing from Infidelity Part 1

908880_10151510085603118_777604951_nNatasha Helfer Parker interviews Adam Fisher, regarding infidelity and its implications for marital and family systems.  They discuss different forms of betrayal/infidelity, how couples can navigate through the tremendous pain which follows, how some marriages will dissolve and other marriages survive and even thrive after such an event and the importance of taking time to heal, to rebuild trust and to develop boundaries.  This interview took place over a year ago so thanks to Adam for his patience as we got this broadcasted.

Adam Fisher is a doctoral student in counseling psychology, with minors in human sexuality and sport psychology. He writes for Kinsey Confidential, the sexual health and information site of the Kinsey Institute. Adam has completed clinical training in many secular and religious settings, including Catholic Charities and LDS Family Services. He is currently working on his dissertation, investigating predictors of divorce when one partner experiences a change in religious beliefs or activity.

After the Affair by Janis Abrahms Spring

Not “Just Friends”: Rebuilding Trust and Recovering your Sanity after Infidelity by Shirley P Glass

The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work by John Gottman

The Science of Trust: Emotional Attunement for Couples by John Gottman

Hold Me Tight by Sue Johnson

Many thanks to The Lower Lights for the beautiful bumper music and to James Estrada of Oak Street Audio for audio production of this podcast.

2 comments for “014: Impact of and Healing from Infidelity Part 1

  1. Anonymous
    June 14, 2017 at 5:05 pm

    I had an affair during the process of marriage counseling as my needs for an emotionally safe relationship were not being addressed. After I disclosed to my wife and then to the therapist, she (the therapist) never addressed the issue of why I did it. Huge let down! When I listened to your podcast I found that I fit into multiple rationales: protestive, violation of trust, jealousy, burn out, and the power player. The therapist went straight for the power player because she felt that, and labeled me as, a sex addict. After almost a year of therapy where I was being chastised for my fear of addressing conflict with my emotionally abusive wife I finally decided to quit.

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