071: Mixed-Orientation Marriage – A Wife’s Perspective w/ Carol Lynn Pearson

index.4Natasha Helfer Parker interviews Carol Lynn Pearson regarding the experiences she had being the heterosexual spouse in a mixed-orientation marriage. Carol Lynne provides a frank and vulnerable personal account as to how she and Gerald came to the decision to marry in spite of his homosexual orientation, and how this marriage ultimately affected her own sense of self, femininity, sensuality and overall identity. She also discusses many of the roadblocks and challenges the LGBTQ community continues to experience in our Mormon culture and ways we need to continue to challenge our current framework in order to be more inclusive and healthy as an overall church community. She closes the interview with some lovely readings of her inspired poetry.

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Goodbye, I Love You

The Hero’s Journey of the Gay and Lesbian Mormon

TLC’s My Husband’s Not Gay…

Obama Calls For End to ‘Conversion’ Therapies for Gay and Transgender Youth

Wardell B. Pomeroy, 87; Aided Kinsey’s Studies on Sex

Kinsey’s Heterosexual-Homosexual Rating Scale

Many thanks to The Lower Lights for the beautiful bumper music and to Brian Dillman for audio production of this podcast.  Natasha Helfer Parker runs a private practice in Wichita, KS and writes at The Mormon Therapist for Patheos: Hosting the Conversation of Faith.

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3 comments for “071: Mixed-Orientation Marriage – A Wife’s Perspective w/ Carol Lynn Pearson

  1. Joyce Warner
    May 27, 2015 at 6:41 pm

    Thank you Natasha and Carol Lynn. I was moved by this podcast. My deceased sister’s best friend was a gay man who came from a prominent Mormon family in Idaho Falls. The family chose their love of family over the church and were ostracized and shunned for it. The damage to LGBTs by the black and white doctrines of the church are so hurtful. We must recognize we’re all human and we all deserve love and respect.

  2. A Happy Hubby
    May 29, 2015 at 5:35 am

    Thanks Carol for a thought-provoking 2 hours. We as a church have moved a bit on this issue, but we have so much more to do. I found this podcast encouraging me to keep pushing – especially down at the ward level – to make the church a more welcoming and loving place.

  3. Amy
    June 8, 2015 at 2:42 pm

    Thank you for this podcast. Carol understands it perfectly and describes it intelligently. I was married to a gay man but I am also gay so I understand it from both sides. We were both raised Mormon and have gone through a lot in the last few years. This was a nice place to come for comfort. Thanks again.

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